Boosting Your Self-Confidence
Knowing how to build your self-confidence will help you at every stage of life. Even if you know you have many strengths, you may have experiences that make you question your abilities. In those situations, to keep your doubts from undermining your efforts, you may need to work on boosting your self-confidence. Here are a few tips.
- Know your positive qualities, your values, and your strengths. Though we don’t often acknowledge to ourselves what is positive about us, taking the time to do so will lift your confidence. Don’t be modest; everyone has positive aspects of their personalities. Take time to write down your positive traits. For example, they may include how you use your mind, your physical appearance, your sense of humor, your curiosity, or your generosity. Then name three values that are important to you, and identify your personal strengths. If you feel stuck, ask a trusted friend to tell you what they observe about you. Use these as personal resources to build your self-confidence.
- Keep developing new skills all through life. Self-confidence is the belief that you can complete a task or meet a responsibility. And because your challenges will keep changing all through life, you will need to keep developing new skills to know you can meet them. If you lack confidence in your ability to be a good father, for example, you may want to take a parenting course at an adult-education center.
- Praise others every day. In order to maintain your self-confidence, you need to know that others value and appreciate your efforts. Praising others can help you feel good, too. Some experts advise that you try to give at least three compliments a day -- for example, at least one at work, one at home, and one in another setting, such as a mall or store.
- Spend time with upbeat, confident people. Research has shown that beliefs can be contagious, and if you spend time with people whose confidence you see as well-deserved, you may “catch” their attitude. Self-confident friends and co-workers may also give you good ideas on how you can maintain your faith in your abilities. Ask them how they stay confident when they face difficulties. You may be surprised by how simple some of their strategies are, such as working out at a gym so they will stay physically strong enough to meet their responsibilities.